Peer in episode #57 of the De Gebakken Peren Podcast.
“I felt an enormous responsibility. Because my self-worth as a person was so entangled with the company.”
It’s one thing to consider the success of the company important because you’re happy to help others.
But never forget that you've already helped people with what the company has done so far!
It’s already a success. Growing or simply keeping it running are both expansions of that impact that already exists.
But if we’re honest, many of us identify ourselves with the success of the company.
“We are okay because the company is okay.”
We can tell ourselves it’s about others, but it’s also about us.
It’s much healthier to realize that you are not your company. And, you’re worthy of love either way.
“In life, I find it hard to create space for myself”
It’s always the ones that take care of others first that are afraid of taking care of themselves.
They don’t see that they’re on the complete opposite end of the spectrum, so in reality they’ve got nothing to worry about.
Nevertheless, this can come up in finding it hard to take a healthy salary from the company, taking up airtime in meetings, or requiring others to adapt to them.
But in order to be able to be of service to others, you have to also take care of yourself.
That can mean learning to accept the gift of a salary. That can be accepting that your opinions or personality quirks are just as worthy of consideration as anyone’s. You don’t always have to adapt to everyone’s wishes.
“My perfectionism of “everything has to be done right” isn’t always effective.”
Thinking that your way is the best or only way to do something is a form of hubris.
It’s a posture of certainty, but in effect, an admission of tunnel vision.
Besides, paradoxically, demanding perfection is also lazy.
It seems like a high standard, but since it’s unattainable, it's not actually a standard.
Setting a specific standard that you deem “good enough” takes effort and emotional work.
Now you’re on the hook.
The good news is, now people can get to work!
“Everything I did, I did for the first time. Nobody is good at what they do right away. Me neither. I had a hard time with that in the beginning.”
Couldn’t resist adding this fourth lesson.
It's pretty strange, right, what we demand of ourselves as entrepreneurs?
Be a little kinder to yourself.
And find people to help you!
